What a silly question.
I can’t imagine how many times I’ve asked myself that, it’s gotta be in the thousands.
Will I fit in here….. Fit in where? It’s as if I actually think there’s some prexisting, exclusive group that I’m not automatically a part of just by being here [at Lakehead].
I vividly remember thinking that I have to fit in with a group of people – like I was the main character in some Judy Blume book about coming of age – but now that I’m a little older and a lot more comfortable with who I am as a person, I realize that you [the royal you]do not need to fit in ‘here’ ‘there’ or anywhere. I get that this fear comes from the want to be accepted, but to me that’s a totally different conversation. I Strongly believe that we attract people based on who we geniunely are. Why would I force myself to change into someone that I, Dave Venneri, isn’t just becasue of this random idea that I need to fit in.
This is how it works on the most cliche and simple scale; you attract people who are similar to you, and you form real connections and bonds with those people. My first year, I made connections with people that weren’t like me, and those relationships fizzled out. I made deeper connections with people five years ago who I am lucky enough to call friends to this day.
Okay check out this photo: (Me: top/centre/right : Lookin’ Goofy)
This was my SECOND DAY on campus. I’m still amazing friends with half of the people in this picture. Second. Day. On. Campus. I truly believe that the people in this picture attracted me into their lives subconsciously, like a gravitational pull. They didn’t drastically alter who they were to become my friends, we just sort of became acquaintances and grew into friends.
It’s easy for me to look back now and make these connections, but I get it. When I started at Lakehead all I wanted to do was not fall up the stairs in Simcoe hall. I can proudly say I’ve done that about a dozen times, but I don’t care because that’s part of who I am.
Sentimenatality is my strong suit